The rest of the Week!!

Wednesday is the day when my brother Charlie drives me to the west. Aunty Helen came too. she is most social and great company and loves all the chat surrounding our visit.

Shelley was home from Aberdeen, not to see me (silly) but to have one of her famous nights out.

So the car was loaded up with goodies and we ventured forth, only to hit a massive jam. 1 1/2 hours delays, but Sat Nav came into its own as we manoeuvred around the city.

The mean streets was not an exaggeration. Car locks were flipped. This was not the Buchannan Gallery. Charlie number plate reads "HUN", short for Hunter, but as he explained, it also has football connections and not one that all Glaswegians would read favourably. Great! I had images of gang warfare. I wanted to shout out the windows "it is OK, we don't do football! We are a rugby family!!" but Charlie advised that it would be best not to.

As we cruised through the gheto it all seemed quite quiet. No shots were fired, and nit even a burnt out car in sight. I was quite disappointed really. I kept expecting some little gang to jump out of the shadows and start singing songs from west side story. Oh well, another illusion shattered. Not Even Taggart!

The southern was reached safely. Colin was mobile and we sat with Earl Grey and Cappuccinos, served with a delicious Victoria Sponge. Helen as usual was the highlight of the visit. Entertaining Colin and myself with stories and was soon chatting away to Jane and Richard. So as we were now surplus to requirement, Colin and I went and had some private time. All is well and the the gym and physio filled his day. But with the weekend on the horizon so I hope that there would be rugby on. Must check Tv LISTING!

We headed into the town to drop Shelley. With one eye looking out for Rab C Nesbitt, and with numerous warnings about the unscrupulous boys in Glasgow, (Trainspotting came to mind, but then I remembered that was Edinburgh, hmmm). We headed back east and left Shelley with warnings ringing in her ears!!

PS. Shelley seemed to survive her visit to the West. It did involve a trip to A and E, when her friends flat mate was dropped on her face, maybe in a re-enactment of the scene from dirty dancing, and split open her chin. She came home with some new purchases and has disappeared again to the land of Abdn. That's my girl!

More adventures of Coco and Toto...

The wind whispered through the trees, gossip and truth distorted by the darkness and loneliness of the forest. A jumble of letters had been discovered at the entrance to the ice cold depths of the frozen cave. Paranoia had filled the minds of those who see no good.
Toto and Coco were ensconced in the bubble that had now become their haven. All was good in their world.

Monday

The weekend has once again passed. A succession of visitors have kept Colin's spirits high. No mean feat as those two days are a long drawn out affair. 48 hours in limbo, no structure to the day, just meals and the normal rounds of drugs and routine. So it passes and Monday arrives. Hand therapy and gym fill Colin's day. His new physio, Katy is a blessing. Two and a 1/2 hours a day are filled with exercise and routines prepared to enhance Colin's broken body. His mind too benefiting from his regime. Tilt tables and machines resembling puppet theatre fill these precious hours. Party tricks are preformed and improvements, no matter how small are worked on.

Drugs and remedies are administered daily but it is the magic of the gym that will benefit Colin. Les has been in touch, Colin's friends and colleagues, from Gala will come this Tuesday. A welcome diversion from the insane twittering of myself informing Colin of the day to day dealings with Accountants, Social Work etc.

A weekend at work has clouded my mind with tiredness, the visits have become longer and longer, as I hate leaving Colin. He is up longer every day so I stay longer every day, taking every opportunity to recapture the loss months when he was bedridden. More time is spent discussing, "When he gets home", back to reality, back to our life. It is now 3.17 am and as I lay here, cup of tea, notebook and deafening silence, ( Well even rodents have to sleep!) I wonder if one day if Colin and I will even remember half of these awful events. I hope not, just the memories of people that have helped us through.

Good Night Sweetheart...

It was a very long day. After having cancelled having a lovely coffee with Donna, (tea and remedies shall have to wait till next time i am afraid) as I was not sure if I was going to make it to our hospital appointment on time.

The west beckoned earlier than usual today. A "goal planning meeting" was on today's agenda. I had heard whispers of them in the unit, but it was like tracking the holy grail. Held monthly, a member of all the professional teams (medical, physio, OT, social work.... etc.) attend. They discuss your progress. Set goals and generally discuss your life and make decisions that will effect long term. Colin and I were placed at the top of a conference table and reports were read and questions asked. Some go into these meetings with a whole pad of A4 covered in questions. We had none. But from nowhere, the professional Colin appeared.

He chaired the meeting. He took control. Some of his sentences I did not even understand. The other professionals in the room nodded agreement. There was no getting away from it. He was in control. I expected him at any moment to pull out the graph and slides that he has prepared! He brought the meeting to a close. I don't know who was more surprised, me or the hospital contingent? I'm not sure who was taking minutes but they better be correct as I am in no doubt that Colin will wish to revue them and amend.

He returned to rest. 51/2 hours in the chair, meeting etc. I left him and went to the day room to chat with Bev and Jane.

Jane's Richard is to be "released" on Friday. The holy grail has been captured, but it is really really scary. You leave the bubble and then what? Life that has been for months is left behind and you are pushed into the outside world. Richard will do fine. He is amazing. so positive, so young, so resilient. Jane will do the worrying for him, a "mothers lot". We will all miss them.

It has been decided that when the airlines no longer meed me that I should not fret, as I have found a new vocation. Hair dresser to the stars. Mover over Charlie Miller.

One of my "chores" was to buy hair clippers today. I hummed and hawed about just taking in the horse clippers. But I headed to Boots instead. I paid a ridiculous amount of money and headed west with my new purchase.

I decided to make Colin's hair "choppy". with a few layers to add to the texture. Jane and Bev sat agog as the clippers did their magic.

I personally feel it was in the mode of George Clooney and a very young version of Tom Cruise, in his top gun days.

Then why did I hear sniggers of "Romanian orphan"? Hmm? Note to self, hife all mirrors and swear to Colin this is the latest style, straight from the catwalks.

Lesley and Douglas came to visit. Long time friends, who have shared family holidays, family traumas and Mitchell disasters. But they still come back for more. Pony club camps, cruises and Corfu excursions, to name but a few.

The chat was good, Douglas as always brings a smile to our faces and Colin was relaxed and comfortable in the presence of an old friend.

It was late when they left, so Colin went back to the ward with me and sorted himself out for the long night ahead. Too much off a good thing. Is that the saying? Well I cannot remember all the details but I said something and he bit back. Lets say that I decided to retire for the evening without the normal niceties. No goodnight sweetheart. No see you in the morning. I headed home and was contemplating the new "man" in my life. Yes he would be there, I could always count on that. My mouse. Scratching out "I love you" in morse code from behind my fireplace.

Monday and Tuesday

WARNING- Some of the content of this post is not suitable for under 18s or people of a nervous disposition.

Monday

Shelley is now back at university. Louise ensconced in married bliss and working full time at Clifton hall (she is not sure how she ended up working full time, that wasn't on the plan?!) but hey ho.

Melissa has decided to fly off to New Zealand to visit an old chum for six weeks. The house will be very quiet, only me, Pheobe (the "dog") and the darned mouse.

I hate this time of year, Colin too. It was dark, cold and the nights were long and days with no rest from animals. In fact, more work as they horses were stabled at night, so work was doubled. But still Colin would not complain. I helped. Horses were brought in and started to be walked out in preparation to bring them up to Polo fitness. How many time did I see Colin ride and lead one, with the dogs dancing between their legs. Taking a chance when they danced under Pimms' feet. And off they would go off up the field, round the track and home.

Once polo fitness was reached they would all dance down he track knowing that Chukkas and warm weather could not be far away!

But this year it is different. Stables stand empty, kennels are bare too. No bridles in pieces on the sitting room floor, awaiting oil. No packages arriving and no chink on the Polo Time landing in the mat.

How many times did I e-mail Shirley. "These damn horses, Colin in south Africa, Egypt or some far flung country. I wish I didn't have these dogs to walk...." (sometimes at 330 in the morning, poor dogs) "I wish these ponies were somewhere else."

Oh how I whined. But as they say, be careful what you wish for, it might just come true.

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Tuesday

The new social scene of the day room takes us out of our bubble. I thought working in the airlines for around 30 years made me "street wise"

But obviously not. Colin's ward mates are now beginning to educate me in the finer points of personal care.

Look away now .....

I had no idea of the back, crack and sac. Favoured by male spinal patients. What is wrong with short back and sides?

The ward mate of Colin's whose career choice was to say less than reputable, was disgruntled with a, hmmm, client, offered him a free massage. Applying lotion and upon finishing her extras showed him to the shower, leaving the tube of immac on the side table.

The ward is filled with characters and everyone comes with their own stories. Those who survives three drive by shootings, to finally be left with three bullets lodged in his body and unable to walk. Those who have been "jumpers" that misjudged the height required.

Oh yes, my bubble had been burst. Maybe I was not as street wise as I once thought.

Weekends in the ward...

We have been lucky. Colin's skin has held and so the chair time has continues. 2 1/2 hours twice a day has been reached but its not all easy. Colin's stomach muscles have deteriorated and his back is therefore in a lot of pain due to the lack of support. But this is something Colin will have to deal with until time and patience brings its rewards.
He is now out of bed his bed for long spells. We wander around the unit and socialise with people in the day room. His ward mate Mike and his wife Bev also in limbo up and nowhere to go. So lots of time is taken in their company. Futures, children and house renovations are the first conversations, and although there are many sad stories, bringing people to this unit, it is remarkable the attitudes of the "inmates" (also referred to as "inpatients").
No self pity, or at least none I have ever seen. Just hope and expectation.Les once again visited on friday night. News of what is going on in Colin's other life, work. It wouldn't surprise me if one day next week if i walked into the ward to find Colin hooked up to a machine in the middle of a conference call!
His mind is in need of stimulation. I do try, tales of work and home, social workers and OTs. Oh yes I can witer on, but I am sure that his eyes glaze over. He used to say he lost me after two minutes if I was not interested in his chat! My eyes would glaze and a blank expression on my face.
What could be more interesting to him than the news that our bins have still not been emptied and our road resembles an ice rink? At any moment I expect to see Torvill and Dean and the entire cast of dancing on ice appear followed by our mouse and his newest skill on the list, figure skating! I am sure it is a battle of wits, but at the moment the mouse is winning.Just one question...are your eyes glazing over?

Tuesday and Wednesday!

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New developments. OT/ social work and council returning. This is major news, it means that we are finally on the social work wheel and things will finally start to happen. We hope. Rooms will be located, walls boarded up and the house will take on yet another era in the Mitchell house.

Tues/Wed

An empty bedsite on arrival at the southern. That could only mean one thing, Colin was confined to bed once more. I spoke to Lee, the nurse and was told that at skin check this morning Colin was showing a red spot. Ironically, not on the originally site. It was not broken, but early indications were there. This now mean a possible few days in bed. I was not upset, it had been something I had expected. Colin's skin is vulnerable. I knew that if his bed was not in the ward, then he was in the gym. Sure enough, that is where I found him.

His spirits were high, as long as his gym time was not compromised, he could cope with the lack of chair time.

We had "outside" visitors toda. I say we, I of course mean Colin, but I always enjoy new chat. Jamie Douglas and Jonathan Tidswell. Colin was glad to see them, with their news from the outside world. Ponies, work and normality.

The time passed quickly and after they left, the normal routine continued. I hoped that the skin blip was just temporary and that "chair" time would commence soon, but as Colin and I have to learn, you cannot push things, or you go back to square one.

I do not find this easy, but as usual Colin accepts this with good grace.